A growing number of people are choosing a celebration of life in place of a traditional funeral. This guide will help you understand what a celebration of life involves, how to plan one and what to consider.
What is a celebration of life?
A celebration of life is a gathering that allows family and friends to say goodbye to someone who has passed away by honouring their life, legacy and personality in a personal and uplifting way. Unlike traditional funerals, this type of service focuses more on the joy and impact of the person’s life rather than mourning their passing.
While it still plays a role in the grieving process, it:
focuses on positive stories and memories
encourages personalisation and emotional expression
offers flexibility in format, tone and location.
Speakers may share humorous or heartfelt stories, and the atmosphere is typically more relaxed and reflective of the person’s character.
A celebration of life can be:
part of a non-religious funeral, including a service and committal
a separate memorial event held days or weeks after the funeral.
Things to consider when planning a celebration of life
Dress code
Instead of traditional black attire, invite guests to wear:
bright or bold colours
your favourite colour
clothes that reflect your personality (e.g. sparkles, football shirts).
Transport options
Instead of a standard hearse, consider:
a campervan
a horse-drawn carriage
a favourite vehicle of the deceased.
Venue ideas
A celebration of life does not have to take place in a church or crematorium. Consider:
community halls
outdoor spaces
a location that’s meaningful.
Music and readings
Include songs, poems, or passages that celebrate your life. Choose uplifting or meaningful content.
Memory table or board
Invite guests to contribute by bringing:
photos
written memories
personal items that reflect the life of the person who has passed
a quote, favourite saying or memory.
Items for guests to take away
Consider something for the guests to take away with them to remember you (e.g. a packet of seeds so guests can grow your favourite flower).
Who conducts a celebration of life service?
A celebrant, religious leader, family member or friend can lead the service. Their role includes:
opening the service
co-ordinating speakers or music
guiding the flow of events.
What to say at a celebration of life service
A celebration of life often includes:
eulogies from family and close friends
uplifting poems or readings
open sharing where attendees are invited to speak spontaneously.
These words should celebrate your personality, achievements and the impact you had on others.