Embracing life fully means acknowledging death – not with fear, but with preparedness and gratitude.
Our relationship with death
For many years, Western society has embraced the idea that death is something to resist, delay or ignore until the last possible moment. This mindset has been reinforced by advancements in medical science, which have transformed once-fatal diseases into manageable conditions, allowing people to live longer and fuller lives.
As a result, our exposure to death has diminished. Decades ago, it was common for loved ones to pass away at home, surrounded by family and community caregivers. The deceased would be laid out in the home and people would gather to pay their respects. This practice fostered a natural acceptance of death as an inevitable part of life.
Today, death often occurs in hospitals or care facilities, distancing us from its reality. The COVID-19 pandemic brought this disconnect into sharp focus, leaving many shocked by the sudden loss of control over life and mortality.
Accepting life’s fragility
The truth is, we have never been in control of life itself – only in how we choose to live it. The COVID-19 pandemic served as a stark reminder that death is not an abstract concept; it is real, personal and inevitable. It can affect our friends, family, and, ultimately, ourselves.
But must we face death before we can fully appreciate life?
Living with purpose
A meaningful question to ask yourself is: “Am I enjoying my life?” If your answer is uncertain or negative, take the time to reflect on what changes could bring you closer to a sense of fulfilment. Despite any current challenges, deep introspection can help identify what truly brings you joy and purpose.
Preparing for the inevitable
Facing death practically can provide peace of mind for both you and your loved ones. Consider taking proactive steps to ensure a well-organised end-of-life plan:
Advance directives: specify your medical preferences in case you become unable to communicate them.
Will and estate planning: ensure your assets are distributed according to your wishes.
Funeral planning: communicate your preferences for burial, cremation or memorial services.
Healthcare and financial power of attorney: designate trusted individuals to make decisions on your behalf if needed.
Conversations with loved ones: open discussions can ease emotional burdens and clarify your wishes.
By taking these steps now, you provide invaluable support to your family, medical professionals and, most importantly, yourself.